Most of us aren’t aware of the shame that sits in our body. We call it something more socially acceptable. We say things like … “I feel embarrassed, confused, overwhelmed, unsure, stupid, silly, upset, hurt …”
And yet … what lies underneath these emotions is often a deep, painful, debilitating sense of shame, of somehow feeling wrong. Even though we may not call it that, our heart knows the deep ache of not feeling good enough, not having enough, not belonging, not being understood, not being seen, not being loved, not being free.
The worst part? The shame in our bodies has become so “normal”, we think there is no other way, and the cycle continues.
Shame exists in the areas we are most vulnerable. It could be that…
- Your business is going incredibly well, but you feel lonely and ashamed because you don’t have a life partner. Or maybe you continue to pick the wrong one and always end up hurt and alone.
- You have a terrific family but you’ve lost yourself in being the wonderful wife and caring mother. You no longer know who you are or what you wish for outside of their lives.
- You’ve boldly quit your job and have put everything on the line to pursue your creative passion, but it’s just not getting off the ground. Self-doubt is seeping in.
- You’ve taken care of your health all your life, but your chronic health issues simply will not go away.
- You’ve done everything right, you’ve followed the plan with your career, friends, partnership and financial choices, yet that deep hole still exists. You’re sure you’re failing somehow.
Shame itself isn’t the problem. Our relationship with it is.
Most of us don’t want to acknowledge our shame. We don’t want to talk about it or feel it. We try to avoid it. Deny it. Keep it a secret. Or we even bypass it through yoga, affirmations, carefully-laid plans or a constant re-arranging of our lives, as we try to feel good.
The problem is when you constantly push the shame down, it slowly creeps into other areas of your life. The feeling of “being wrong”, “not being good enough” or “not lovable enough” spreads . You start to doubt yourself in areas you were once confident. You start to question who you are. Your values. Your decisions. Your self worth. It can become an endless spiral that keeps you spinning for days, months or even years on end.
Here’s the tricky part:
Your relationship to shame is often what stops you from having what you want. When you are ashamed of your shame, and you contract your body around it, keeping it hidden and frozen inside of you, you end up diminishing yourself and repelling away what you really want.
The only way we can shift shame is by feeling it and letting it move through our bodies.
(Take a moment to breathe and read that sentence again).
We can’t control the intensity of it, we can’t control how it wants to move through us, we can’t control when it comes, but we can learn to just be with it (even if it’s just for a few seconds). To breathe, stop hiding or pushing it down and let it be a part of us. If we can allow this to happen, it will move and our relationship with it will change.
The Shifting Shame, Releasing Fear Workshop is a safe space for you to explore and shift your shame through movement, breath, discussion and body-centered exercises.
This workshop is intentionally kept small – maximum 15 people- to allow you to safely and intimately navigate your relationship to shame.
In the workshop, you’ll learn to recognize how you react to shame in your body – what situations in life trigger it, where you tense your muscles, how you breathe, what the feelings and sensations are that you’re trying to control, where your mind goes, how you behave in those moments where shame is triggered.
And you’ll learn to stop it, as you wish, and let all the energy that you previously invested in being afraid of and hiding your shame, be set free to simply move through you.
Imagine how your life would change if you were no longer held back by shame, fear and old stories from your past.
You’ll learn Embodied Movement and breathing techniques to help you deal with:
- Body image and cultural / social expectations
- Rejection, failure, making mistakes
- The chronic feeling that something is wrong with you
- Anxiety, overwhelm and guilt
- Jealousy and comparison amongst women
- Silently held opinions you hold of yourself
- Criticism and judgment from others
- Finding internal space for forgiveness and self-acceptance
My biggest wish for you is this…
…that as you shift your relationship to shame, you’ll thrive a bit more every single day, and your long-held dreams will become your reality.
The outcome totally exceeded my expectations!
I signed up for Marcelas ‘Shifting Shame’ workshop because I was stuck in a mess of relational stuff – and the outcome totally exceeded my expectations! It feels like the work we did with Marcela, the process she guided us through, shifted pretty much everything for me. Also, I can use her practices to continue dealing with issues on my own. I would jump at the chance to participate again!
She is a gifted and fierce woman who truly understands people and their bodies.
This workshop was beautifully held and amazingly powerful. I gained so much clarity in how I was holding fear and shame in my body and also easy to use tools and practices that I can use in my everyday life to release these emotions. This work is unlike anything I have come across and is very special indeed. If you get a chance to participate in a workshop with Marcela do not hesitate! Thankyou Marcela! #whattheshityo?!
When people say 'do the work' well...this is it; THE WORK.
If you are looking for a workshop that will really redefine how you approach life and all the thoughts you have that hold you back, I truly can’t recommend this workshop enough. Marcela is an incredible facilitator and the practices and tools you will gain are so simple yet profoundly deep. It is a movement based practice, which for me really resonated. After a couple of years ‘talking’ things through with friends and professionals alike, getting more in my body was the tipping point for me to really take all this theory and start embodying it in practice. Don’t mistake it for dancing though, although it is huge fun, it is also very confronting and when people say ‘do the work’ well…this is it; THE WORK.
What is the workshop size?
The maximum participants in this workshop is 15. The nature of the subject is such that a smaller, more intimate group allows participants to freely express themselves and feel safe in the process.
What is the workshop schedule?
Saturday: 9:30am – 6:00pm (Lunch break 1:00 – 2:30 pm)
Sunday: 9:30am – 1:00pm
Several short breaks are scheduled throughout both days.
What should I wear to the workshop?
As this is a movement workshop, it’s best to wear clothes that are comfortable. Yoga gear / active wear are great. The room temperature may vary as you move, so it’s best to layer yourself.
What should I bring to the workshop?
Bring a notepad, pen and water bottle. Snacks will be provided.
Is my registration/ticket transferrable?
Yes, as long as you contact via email to email@example.com at least 48 hours prior to the workshop. Please provide the name, email and contact number of the person you are transferring your ticket to. The new participant must contact me directly prior to the workshop. If for some reason, the ticket is not used, it is not refundable at this point.
What is the cancellation policy?
You may cancel any workshop up to 1 month prior to the event for a full refund less any credit card or PayPal processing fees.
Cancellations less then 1 month but more than 2 weeks prior to the workshop will receive a 50% refund less any credit card or PayPal processing fees.
Cancellations less than 2 weeks prior to the workshop date are non-refundable. You may transfer the ticket onto a friend 48 hours prior to the workshop by emailing firstname.lastname@example.org.